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Rape Culture

Last month, one of my favorite authors – Shannon Hale – brought up the sensitive but pertinent topic of rape culture in our country. She says ” Rape culture is an environment that is conducive to rape.” She talks about how if  an upstanding woman gets ambushed and raped, there’s no question that is rape. But things like date rape turns the definition into a gray area. The victim often has to fight just as hard (or harder) to prove herself innocent and the perpetrator. If the woman was drinking, well then she was obviously asking for it. And if she’s married to him, than it’s her duty – not rape. It all stems from the attitude that women are objects there to please men.

Her next post goes into detail on the difference between sex and rape. It boils down to consent. Shannon says “Consent isn’t the absence of a “no;” consent is an unequivocal and enthusiastic YES.” Rape is about power and control, consent is optional. Sex is about an intimate connection. There is a huge difference between the two!

In her third post she goes into more depth about consent. She had some comments debating an enthusiastic yes was needed for consensual sex. If everyone followed her definition, maybe we wouldn’t have the term date rape. I love her point about when a husband wants sex but his wife isn’t in the mood. If he disregards her desire, her voice, because he wants her body – that’s unhealthy. That’s abuse. What does it say about a person who is OK having sex with someone who doesn’t want to have sex with them?

This is an important discussion we should be having with our children, both our sons and daughters. Education is the key to changing behavior and our culture.


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Princess Academy: Palace of Stone Book Review

In August, we read the middle grade / young adult fiction, Princess Academy by Shannon Hale for our family book club. I couldn’t wait for the sequel, Palace of Stone! I’m just as excited to share my book review with you!Palace of Stone Book Review

Coming down from the mountain to a new life in the city is a thrill to Miri. She and her princess academy friends have been brought to Asland to help the future princess Britta prepare for her wedding.There, Miri also has a chance to attend school-at the Queen’s Castle. But as Miri befriends students who seem sophisticated and exciting she also learns that they have some frightening plans. Torn between loyalty to the princess and her new friends’ ideas, between an old love and a new crush, and between her small mountain home and the bustling city, Miri looks to find her own way in this new place. Picking up where Princess Academy left off, and celebrating the joys of friendship, romance and the fate of fairy tale kingdoms, this new book delivers the completely delightful new story that fans have been waiting for. {Amazon}

I can’t say I liked Palace of Stone quite as much as Princess Academy, but it was very good! It was interesting to see how Miri adjusted to the different challenges of a big city, and how she kept her unique point of view despite the changes. My daughter was much harder on Miri as she struggled to gain her bearings early on in the book, but I loved how her motives were true to trying to help people. Throughout everything, she still has a wonderful way of looking at problems. I give it four slices!

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Princess Academy Book Review

I’m within four books of my goal for the year, with four months left! Now I’m trying to catch up on my book reviews. We read the young adult book, Princess Academy by Shannon Hale, for our last family book club. Be sure to check out our fun meeting at Arizona Mama! Several years ago this was the first Shannon Hale book I read and it made me an immediate fan. I’m glad I read it again to share it with my younger kiddos and share my book review with you.

Princess Academy by Shannon HaleMiri lives on a mountain where, for generations, her ancestors have quarried stone and lived a simple life. Then word comes that the king’s priests have divined her small village the home of the future princess. In a year’s time, the prince himself will come and choose his bride from among the girls of the village. The king’s ministers set up an academy on the mountain, and every teenage girl must attend and learn how to become a princess.

Miri soon finds herself confronted with a harsh academy mistress, bitter competition among the girls, and her own conflicting desires to be chosen and win the heart of her childhood best friend. But when bandits seek out the academy to kidnap the future princess, Miri must rally the girls together and use a power unique to the mountain dwellers to save herself and her classmates. {Amazon}

Not only do I remember the story better having read it a second time (it stinks getting old), but I saw and appreciated the depth of the story. It went from just a book with a strong feminine main character to one with many life lessons for us all, like diplomacy and seeking to understand people’s motives. And Miri’s still awesome! I couldn’t help look at myself and see how the same lessons apply to me. I give this book five slices!

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Friday Favorites: July 20

Where did July go? Wasn’t the Forth of July just a couple of days ago? I don’t how 10 days went by without a post. In my defense, we had a family vacation and recovering from the vacation. At least I have lots of favorites to share.

  • Discovery Gateway Children’s Museum – When we went to the Lowell Observatory, we bought a year pass that worked at several other museums. This was a good deal with the two places we’ve been in Arizona,and the three places we went to in Utah, it was an amazing deal!
  • Clark Planetarium – They have a free exhibit and an IMAX theater.
  • Thanksgiving Point – There are four exhibits in one. My favorite was the garden. We were very entertained feeding the Koi fish.
  • A family picnic
  • evo ’12 – Once again I learned a ton and hung out with awesome people! Be sure to read my evo post at Arizona Mama.
  • A new clothes washer. It was hard to catch up on the laundry from our trip – especially when the washer died mid load! I’m happy to report that we are all wearing clean clothes again!

I also been finding some favorites online too!

Keep me in the loop! What are your favorites this fine Friday?

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