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I’ve never liked the word cram.  Even though there are several definitions for the word, I can’t think of one of them that doesn’t make me cringe just a little.

There’s cramming a suitcase or your day – as in trying to fit more than is humanly possible.  And then there is cramming it down someone’s throat.  “It” is rarely something good; and even if it was something yummy like a chocolate chip cookie – I don’t want it crammed down my throat.

In high school, my friends crammed for exams.  That never worked for me; I could review the material so it was fresh on my mind, but I knew it or I didn’t.  The thought of trying to “know” it a few hours before the test tied my stomach in knots – still does. Nowadays the tests are different.  You can’t cram for a job interview, the big game or a friendship.

I had a couple of stressful days and my bad habits of comforting myself with food came flooding back.  I woke up on the morn of my weigh-in trying to figure out how to cram a smaller number into the scale.  Nope; you can’t cram that either.

When it comes down to it, you can’t cram life.  It seems like whenever we try, there is an underlying lack of organization and/or discipline that leaves us feeling we need to catch up no matter how unrealistic.

Here’s to nurturing ourselves and enjoying life with a steady pace in our pursuit in excellence.

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Nurturing Voices

As I continue to nurture myself, I noticed the voices in my head.  Not the crazy ones; but that internal conversation we all have as we go through our day.  One morning I was feeling particularly low, and I realized that the most upbeat Bubbly Betty would deflate with the beating I was giving myself. I needed to switch out the bad for some nurturing voices.

I know the importance of positive self talk, and I was surprised to catch myself so deeply entrenched in the opposite.  Once I’m down there, it can be hard to climb out.  I have found a few tools to help me get back in the light.

  • List off the positive things I’ve done today.  Sometimes it’s as simple as I read scriptures with my children and got them off to school, I exercised, I did laundry.  Just the act of looking for the good about myself helps diminish all that’s wrong with me.
  • Write my thoughts down.  These thoughts aren’t usually something I want to keep in my journal for posterity, but just the process of letting it out helps tremendously – then I can burn it!
  • Exercise clears my head and distracts those negative voices.  Who can be sad when your loving your body with movement?
  • Read something uplifting, whether it’s the scriptures, the Ensign or a spiritually inclined book.  Tight now I’m reading Max Lucado’s Just Like Jesus. Sometimes the escape of a good fiction helps, but spiritual books leave me with a feeling that lasts a little longer.

Now that I’m aware, I can pull from my arsenal to get me out of that trench and get back to nurturing the only me I have – these tools are much more effective than chocolate!  How do you turn around those down days?


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Friday Favorites: January 13

Happy Friday the 13th – I hope no scary guys in hockey masks are hanging out in your neighborhood!  I started this post last Friday, but I didn’t get very far before I it was time to help out with inventory for my family’s business.  Bean counting (or bearing counting in this case) makes for a very long day!  So this is a combo list of last week and this one.

  • Life – We had a full family game of Life, it was fun even though I came in last.  We’re not talking a little behind everyone else, we’re talking my cash and life tokens didn’t come close to the cash everyone else had.  Darn midlife crisis!  I ended up with the lowest salary possible.  Hopefully it’s not a foreshadowing of my real life!
  • The Adventures of Tintin – My friend Nota Supermom’s review of this movie was so good, we chose it for our semi-annual trip to the movies.  I loved the action packed adventure that kept us laughing.
  • Christmas decorations – I finally got them packed up and everything back into the Harry Potter closet.  It’s definitely my favorite to not have the house cluttered with boxes and piles of decorations scattered around the house, constantly nagging me to get the job done.  I’m happy to say the job is done, although no one in the house was happy while it was getting done.
  • Cub Committee Meeting – We have some exciting plans for the next three months; first up a Chinese New Year Pack Meeting!  I’ll review last year’s ideas to help pull the details together.  I also tried these yummy Nutella cookies. I’d say they were a hit since they were gone the next day!

There’s some great inspiration around the blogosphere too!

  • Kim from It’s a Crafty Life is inspiring me to get back on track with our Family Photography Club.
  • I might have to try this easy crock pot meal from Dinner Time Ideas.

I’m also devoting time each week to my word of 2012 – nurture.  I nurtured myself this week by eliminating a someday goal from my current routine.  I might be able to do it all, but not in a week!

Please share your favorites of the day!


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Word of the Year – Nurture

Continuing with the tradition of the last two years, I’m choosing a word of focus for the year 2012.  Last year’s word, direction, has served me well.  I still struggle with spreading myself too thin, wanting to do too many things; but I’ve made progress in focusing on what’s most important right now.

Over the course of my quest for direction, I noticed my motives for many of the things I “want” to do were related to other people.  For example, my desire to learn to play the piano; I do want to learn to play the piano, but making the time necessary was creating more stress than pleasure.  But I pushed on hoping my practices would inspire my children to practice – it didn’t.  Part way through the year, I put that goal aside for now.

I hit me again several times in December.  Things I love about Christmas became filled with drama, like how many kinds of cookies we need on hand for Santa and our advent drawers. I love the activities that go with Christmas, but I kept hearing how my kiddos didn’t feel it was enough and I struggled with feeling the joy of the season.  I started asking myself, what do I need to feel the spirit of Christmas?  What does taking care of me look like? Because truthfully trying to make Christmas magical for my kids wasn’t working for me.

By the end of the year, my word of focus for 2012 emerged.  It seems a little selfish, but I don’t think it is.  I need to nurture myself to nurture others. The more I think about my words from the last few of years, they are part of the same journey.  There’s a flow between progress, direction and nurture.  Here’s to enjoying the journey!

What’s your word for the 2012?

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