Category Archives: Motherhood

Motherhood is Giving?

If motherhood is about sacrifice and giving, does that make childhood about selfishness and taking?

Obviously babies need everything given to them and done for them. Toddlers can be very demanding, but the rewards are spontaneous hugs, kisses and lots of adorable artwork. School age kids are actually pretty fun with their warped sense of humor and playful conversations.Motherhood Squirrel

Teenagers are a whole different story. Teenagers can be as unpredictable as feeding wild animals.

  • They might snatch food from your hand and run away.
  • Other times they cautiously approach the food while looking for traps, and then run away.
  • Or they might ignore the food all together, even though they haven’t eaten in days.
  • Once in a while, they stand defiantly demanding your food.
  • The worst is when they take your food (and a finger or two) and then throw rocks at you for giving it to them.

But we hang in there for the reward of those joyful meals with love and laughter.

I understand that if I do my job right, my children will become independent and this is part of the process. What I wasn’t prepared for is how lonely it can be not being needed. Apparently I assumed my kids would be independent, contributing members of society who want to spend time with me because they appreciate the sacrifices I made. We all know what they say about assuming.

Maybe motherhood should include a little more giving to ourselves – without feeling guilty!  I usually worked in developing my talents, hobbies and friendships around my kids’ schedules. Not only did I short change myself, I missed the opportunity to teach my kids how to nurture friendships of their own. I have few close friends that have been in my life for more than 3 years. I worry some of my kiddos have the same challenge.

A lady once accused me of hurting my children by not working outside of the home. I’ve heard the argument that stay at home moms aren’t developing themselves, but the concept of having less to offer our children was a new one for me. I must admit I have much more interesting stories about my day now that I work outside of the home, but I can’t say I agree being a stay-at-home mom is a detriment. I think the answer is somewhere in the middle. Putting ourselves as a priority, feeding our interests and friendships not only makes our lives more robust, but gives our children a role model.

Motherhood requires a lot of sacrifice and we want to give our children the world. But I’d like to suggest being more mindful to what we are giving. In the spirit of giving a man a fish or teaching him to fish, let’s teach our children to value their mothers and to cook their own food. Who knows, maybe one day they will start cooking for us.

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June 2016 in the Books

June Retreat

Writing retreat inspiration

Now that June 2016 is done,  I’m trying to figure out why I wasn’t more productive last month. After I took I my last CPCU test last month, I thought I would have all this free time since I’m not studying. Here’s what I did manage to accomplish.

1 – Book read, a different educational book – Smart Women Finish Rich by David Bach, now to finish the homework.

1.4 – Pounds gained in June.

2 – Blog posts, including my first recipe in a while.

3 – Days at a writing retreat, a wildfire moved it from the mountains to the valley. I missed my pine trees, but it worked out good due to other family events.

4 – Friends enjoying a beach theme dinner. I’m exited to share the photos and projects!

June Newsies12 – Social events. There was shopping, dancing, dining, a photography meetup and even a trip to the theater.

17Workouts this month. I met or exceeded my goal, but didn’t do as many as other months.

18 – Projects completed. There were boring house cleaning projects, creative projects and chasing my dreams projects.

19 – Photos on Instagram in June

861 – Just Wanna Be Me page views

2940 – Words added to a couple of different projects.

5214 Pinterest average daily impressions.

One of my favorite things about these monthly posts is it helps me keep things in perspective. Even though I didn’t feel like I was utilizing my time as well as when I was studying, when I list out my month I see that I am still working toward other goals. Now that the year is half way over, it’s great check my progression. I’ve completed three of my goals and am on track for the all but two. We don’t need to discuss I haven’t even started on those two. But even if we do go there, the year is only half way over so there is still time!

Top Posts of June 2016

  1. Book Theme Party
  2. Humilty Family Home Evening
  3. Working Together Family Home Evening
  4. Spiritual Thoughts Family Home Evening
  5. Pizza NachosSummer Goals

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May 2016 in the Books

May 2016 is in the books and it was a crazy month full of tests! My last CPCU test, and the kids had AP tests and finals. Here’s to remembering how to relax this summer.May Trunk Makeover

-.2 – Pounds  in May

2 – Blog posts, including my first attempt at a makeover of a piece of furniture

1 – Book read, but it was a for fun book – The Secret Lives of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd

May gifts3 – Pieces of new luggage and succulents, thanks to my thoughtful kiddos

7 – Social events, there were some serious celebrating this month

9 – Friends at a celebration dinner at Abuelos

15 – Projects completed, including a couple of steps to some new blog projects in the works

24 – Workouts this month

32 – Photos on Instagram in MayMay Minion

582 – Just Wanna Be Me page views

117,397 – Pinterest impressions

Now that May is the books, it’s on to June with all of it’s adventures and challenges. I’m plugging along on my goals for 2016, how about you?

Top Posts of May 2016

  1. Book Theme Party
  2. Humilty Family Home Evening
  3. Spiritual Thoughts Family Home Evening
  4. Pizza Nachos
  5. Summer Goals
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April 2016 in the Books

CPCU

April CPCU

Another month down, and April 2016 is in the books. I’m approaching my last big test to complete my CPCU, an insurance designation, and I’m pretty overwhelmed. After my test, I’ll catch up on all those things that are building up while I’ve been studying.

-.2 – Pounds lost in April. My first weight loss this year.

2 – Blog posts, including my heartfelt Leaving Motherhood post.

3 – Books read. including my last CPCU book!

12 – Social events, I was sure a social butterfly last month! There was a couple of girl’s nights out and a couple more where we let boys come too, there was family dinners and even a birthday for a cute little boy.

April Party14 – Projects completed, including finishing my taxes and I helped my daughter with her’s too. I’m so glad tax season is over.

23 – Workouts this month, one of my goals I’m doing well on.

38 – Photos on Instagram in April.

1301 – Words added to my new project. I’m not doing good at finishing a project, but right now I need to work on whatever story is in my heart.

1044 – Just Wanna Be Me page views, more than twice as many as last month!

64,650 Pinterest views.

Last month was crazy. Crazy busy. There were some good days, and some really bad days. But life keeps rolling along. Every day is a new opportunity to learn, grow and move forward. Here’s to another month to discover and explore.

Top Posts of April 2016

  1. Book Theme Party
  2. Humilty Family Home Evening
  3. Leaving Motherhood
  4. Summer Goals
  5. Raingutter Regatta
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