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Rape Culture

Last month, one of my favorite authors – Shannon Hale – brought up the sensitive but pertinent topic of rape culture in our country. She says “ Rape culture is an environment that is conducive to rape.” She talks about how if  an upstanding woman gets ambushed and raped, there’s no question that is rape. But things like date rape turns the definition into a gray area. The victim often has to fight just as hard (or harder) to prove herself innocent and the perpetrator. If the woman was drinking, well then she was obviously asking for it. And if she’s married to him, than it’s her duty – not rape. It all stems from the attitude that women are objects there to please men.

Her next post goes into detail on the difference between sex and rape. It boils down to consent. Shannon says “Consent isn’t the absence of a “no;” consent is an unequivocal and enthusiastic YES.” Rape is about power and control, consent is optional. Sex is about an intimate connection. There is a huge difference between the two!

In her third post she goes into more depth about consent. She had some comments debating an enthusiastic yes was needed for consensual sex. If everyone followed her definition, maybe we wouldn’t have the term date rape. I love her point about when a husband wants sex but his wife isn’t in the mood. If he disregards her desire, her voice, because he wants her body – that’s unhealthy. That’s abuse. What does it say about a person who is OK having sex with someone who doesn’t want to have sex with them?

This is an important discussion we should be having with our children, both our sons and daughters. Education is the key to changing behavior and our culture.

 

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Family Home Evening: The Book of Mormon

After various delays, I’m glad to be back to share another Family Home Evening!

Opening Song: For the Beauty of the Earth

Prayer

Scripture: Doctrine and Covenants 20:8-12

Lesson: The Book of MormonFamily Home Evening Book of Mormon

Why do we need the Book of Mormon?

  • For the restored gospel
  • It’s the most correct book. It was translated by inspiration so there are no mis-translations.
  • As such, Joseph Smith stated it will bring us closer to God. (Introduction to the Book of Mormon.)
  • It clarifies doctrine
  • It is the keystone of our religion
  • It shows the Lord’s consistency; that He is the same yesterday and today (D&C 20:12)

Activity: Bluff (This card game has other less appropriate names)

Use a standard deck of 52 cards. All the cards are dealt out to the players; some may end up with more than others. The object is to get rid of all your cards. Whoever has the ace of spades goes first and play continues clockwise.

A turn consists of discarding one or more cards face down on the pile, and calling out their rank. The first player must discard Aces, the second player discards Twos, the next player Threes, and so on. After Tens come Jacks, then Queens, then Kings, then back to Aces, etc.

Since the cards are discarded face down, you do not in fact have to play the rank you are calling. For example if it is your turn to discard Sevens, you may actually discard any card or mixture of cards; in particular, if you don’t have any Sevens you will be forced to play some other card or cards.

Any player who suspects that the card(s) discarded by a player do not match the rank called can challenge the play by calling “Bluff”. Then the cards played by the challenged player are exposed and one of two things happens:

  1. if they are all of the rank that was called, the challenge is false, and the challenger must pick up the whole discard pile;
  2. if any of the played cards is different from the called rank, the challenge is correct, and the person who played the cards must pick up the whole discard pile.

After the challenge is resolved, play continues in normal rotation: the player to the left of the one who was challenged plays and calls the next rank in sequence.

The first player to get rid of all their cards and survive any challenge resulting from their final play wins the game. If you play your last remaining card(s), but someone challenges you and the cards you played are not what you called, you pick up the pile and play continues.

Closing Song: The Day Dawn is Breaking

Prayer

Treat: Jello

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Slices of March

I survived tax season 2013! I know it’s pretty sad to be summing up March in the middle of April, but better late than never. Here’s the numbers behind how my month went.Science Center in March

.8 – Pounds lost. It’s not much, but it’s better than last month!

1 – Article written. I took a month off from the Homemaking Cottage and still only managed my Paper Bag Kite article for Arizona Mama. I am on pace to double that this month.

3.14 – Day we spent at the Science Center. Yep, we are that kind of nerdy.

4 – Saturday weigh ins with my friends. It’s amazing how some girl time makes standing on the scale a lot more fun, even on the bad weeks.

5 – Books read, and I’m still four books behind on my Goodreads goal. I think my favorite for the month was Airman by Eoin Colfer – and we had a fun family book club after everyone finished it.March favorite book

6 – Projects completed.

8 – Ladies dining for our girls night out. I even talked them into going to Frost Gelato afterwards.

11 – Days logging the food I ate. I need to get back in that habit this month.

24 – Hard boiled eggs to dye, although one of my kiddos opted to leave one white.

28 – Countries visited Easy As PIE (at least people from 28 countries).

46 – States represented as Easy As PIE visitors. Apparently I’m not very popular in Montana.

812 – Words added to my book. I am going to finish it this year! (unless I keep getting distracted)

1228 – Words added to my short story. I actually finished the rough draft and read the first couple of pages to my critique group. Now to decide on where to focus my attention, finishing my book or editing my story? Actually I just need to focus on writing :)

1261 – Page views. Thank you for visiting!

March’s Top Posts

  1. Book Theme Party Decorations
  2. Family Home Evening: Joseph Smith’s First Vision Revisited
  3. Native American Blue & Gold
  4. Sweet Shop & Nerf Top Shot Invitations
  5. Family Home Evening: Joseph Smith’s First Vision

What goals did you meet or miss for March?

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Friday Favorites: March 29

Happy Good Friday! It’s a good Friday here for many reasons, including posting my Friday Favorites on Friday two weeks in a row.

  • A family dinner filled with yummy food, delicious chocolate cake and good company!Favorite kite
  • A fun coin toss fundraiser at our last Cub Scout Pack Meeting.
  • Yogurt with a friend.
  • After a detour with a short story, I started working on my book again. As i read over parts of previous chapters, looking for details to support what I was writing, I kept thinking how much I like the story. I’m totally excited to work on it again!
  • On that note, ANWA had a WOW (week of writing). I’ve added 323 words so far this week.
  • My Paper Bag Kite article over at Arizona Mama.
  • I ‘hard-boiled’ eggs in the oven. It simplified the process. The kiddos were commenting they like the other way better, but I’m not sure why. I’ll let you know next week if they taste just as good.
  • Dying Easter Eggs is always fun. I just wish I could start earlier in the evening, but I wish that every year.
  • Today I finished reading Airman by Eoin Colfer and we had our family book club for the book. I didn’t cut it close, I had hours to spare!

How has your week been? Are you as excited about Easter as we are? As excited as I am about Easter, I’m going to sneak in another hundred words or so on my book while everyone else is occupied!

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